Excerpt From Supercoach: How to Ask for Anything From Anyone

The following excerpt is taken from the book SUPERCOACH: 10 Secrets to Transform Anyone’s Life by Michael Neill. It is published by Hay House (March 2010) and is available at all bookstores or online at: www.hayhouse.com.

What is it that allows one person to ask and ask and ask for what he wants, while others stop themselves before even popping the very first question?

This is the simple secret at the heart of this session:

You can ask anyone for anything when you make it okay for them to say “no.”

Your ability to not take the word no personally, no matter how dramatically that “no” may be delivered, is the key to success—not (by definition) because people will always say yes, but because it won’t be emotionally devastating to you if they don’t. The more comfortable you get with the word no, the less likely you are to get caught up in a sort of “post-traumatic stress disorder” of the mind, walking on eggshells and becoming more and more afraid to ask for what you want.

One of the things that can make it considerably easier to face up to the possibility of a strong “no” is knowing that this response invariably comes from one of three places:

1.   Other people’s fear that you will “make” them hear something they don’t want to hear or do something they don’t want to do. Read more